People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the are... - Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate

"Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement. With verbal encouragement, we are trying to communicate, "I know. I care. I am with you. How can I help?"We are trying to show that we believe in him and in his abilities. We are giving credit and praise."