#trauma

"I refuse to let the standards of evil people chip away at my capacity for integrity."

"There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds."

"God has mercifully ordered that the human brain works slowly; first the blow, hours afterwards the bruise."

"If you spend time with crazy and dangerous people, remember – their personalities are socially transmitted diseases; like water poured into a container, most of us eventually turn into – or remain – whoever we surround ourselves with. We can choose our tribe, but we cannot change that our tribe is our destiny."

"We were exiles from reality that summer. We were refugees from ourselves."

"Parents who discipline their child by discussing the consequences of their actions produce children who have better moral development , compared to children whose parents use authoritarian methods and punishment."

"Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone."

"The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma."

"Over time as most people fail the survivor's exacting test of trustworthiness, she tends to withdraw from relationships. The isolation of the survivor thus persists even after she is free."

"Among young people, often a key factor in them committing suicide is the trauma of transient relationships. They throw themselves into a friendship or network of friendships, then it collapses and they're desolate."

"Deep connection is the antidote to madness."